Stress Counselling
Stress counselling can help you if you feel unable to make decisions.
If your concentration is poor? If you frequently forget? If you are sensitive to criticism?
If you have mental blocks? If you are ‘worked up’ in a constant state of tension? – then perhaps you’re suffering from too much stress in your life.
Too much stress in your life can cause you to be physically and mentally ill.
Stress counselling will help you to change some unhelpful beliefs. Overly stressed people will often believe that if things go at all wrong, failure and more trouble is sure to follow – If the day starts badly it can only get worse! – these are unhelpful negative beliefs.
This kind of negative thinking only serves to make you feel powerless, anxious, sad, depressed, and angry. You don’t have to let negative thoughts rule you. Stress counselling helps you to learn how to watch your thinking and challenge your negative thoughts.
Stress counselling
In our sessions we will look at all the areas where you encounter stress – which is probably all the areas of your life. However, we can look at these one by one in order to identify the most stressful areas.
In our sessions you will learn to notice when your mood changes for the worse or when you feel stressed and then record what was running through your mind immediately beforehand. I will encourage you to challenge negative thoughts and to consider and try out new ways of thinking.
Its important that we all get some periods of relaxation in our lives but it can be very difficult to make time for this.
Making changes to your lifestyle isn’t easy at first and it may seem really difficult, especially when you’re feeling stressed, but with every day practice it does get easier and it is achieveable.
Stress counselling can help you learn not to ‘beat yourself up’ and incorporate positive behaviours so you can improve your wellbeing and get on with your life in a more satisfactory and less stressful way.
Low Self Esteem leading to
Shyness and Social Anxiety
If you’re never allowed to express what you feel you wilt inside. It’s common for someone who is feeling ill with their nerves to feel in a muddle, be unable to make decisions, not know who they are any more and rely on the opinion of others to tell them who they are and what they should do.
If you’re constantly bending this way and that to accommodate other people and feeling at breaking point then for your own well being it’s time to acknowledge that you have importance as a person, you have needs, you are unique and your feelings need to be owned and accepted by you. Taking control of what’s best for you does not mean you’re selfish. Taking control does not mean you have to stop loving those around you and close to you (family members etc). Taking control means you can develop assertiveness, practice self care and self nurture and let go of negative beliefs.
Being assertive does not mean you have to show anger and aggression. Being assertive frees you to make choices and take control of your own decision making. Letting those around you know what you prefer can be done gradually and with small steps in the beginning, though be prepared for criticism no matter how you tackle this initial change in your approach – showing honesty can be tough at first.
You can’t change other people, but you can change yourself!
Come along for stress counselling and learn how to be honest with yourself and with those around you. You can’t ‘make’ those around you change, but you can change how you are with them. Let them know if their behaviour is having an adverse affect on you. If you carry on hiding your feelings because others might not like you or might leave you and if you carry on saying yes when you really want to say no then it’s likely you will continue to suffer with low self esteem and continue to wilt inside.
I can help you to communicate better and become more open and outgoing to improve your wellbeing.
For more information on stress counselling for low self esteem, shyness, social anxiety and assertiveness please contact Elizabeth Welch
