Anger

Anger and angry outbursts may, some of the time and maybe alot of the time, have something to do with doubting yourself, feeling unsure or feeling threatened.

Anger can rise in you and have a negative effect when someone is being directly offensive to you and then leave you feeling you have no control over the situation.  However, even when someone is being directly offensive to you, you can, through anger management counselling, learn to contain your anger and therefore attain personal power.  The following is a precis on how you could make positive changes using anger management techniques:

Focus on the task you want to achieve:

·      Use breath control to stay focused on the task you want to achieve.  Stick to what must be done in the situation to get the positive outcome you want.

·      When you begin taking insults personally you get distracted from your task and get caught in unnecessary and potentially damaging argument.

·      Anger management counselling will help you to uncover your confidence and learn not to get side-tracked and  baited into a quarrel. 

·      It is said that our subconscious mind drives ninety percent of our emotion based thought processes. Getting in touch with your consciously aware mind and bringing it on board will bring a ‘positive can do approach’ into your life. Applying thoughtful and calm reasoning will enable you to recognise when another person is trying to provoke you. Calm controlled reasoning keeps you task oriented, enabling specific focus on controlling your anger.

Sometimes you get angry simply because it is the one thing you have always done in a certain situation.

·      Anger Management Counselling can help you to learn alternative ways of reacting when you’re being provoked that don’t involve showing anger, aggression or violence.

One of the most important things you must do to control your anger is to recognise the signs of arousal as soon as they occur.

·      Becoming more sharply tuned to the signs of emotional tension and upset inside you will achieve greater ability to intercept and make changes to the anger cycle  

·      Heightened anger can dim clarity and make you agitated and impulsive.

·      As you learn calm relaxing meditative practices, your confidence in feeling able to regulate anger outbursts will improve.

Anger can serve a useful function

·      You can use your feelings of anger  to work to your advantage by noticing and recording (writing down) early alerting signals that you are becoming upset thus letting your conscious awareness know at what point the cycle needs to be broken. This action works to help prevent anger getting out of control.

·      Remember that letting your anger get out of control makes you agitated and more likely to act impulsively; and impulsive, aggressive and antagonistic acts get you into trouble.

·      Anger Management Counselling can help you to learn how not to use emotion to arrive at a reasoned answer.

Sometimes you get angry because things look like they are getting out of hand and you want to take charge.  Perhaps you fear that things will not go the way you want them to, so you call on anger as a way of trying to keep things under your control.

·      Do not threaten force to make others agree with you. 

·      Anger Management Counselling can guide you to consider many options/answers. Through the exploration and self observation process of anger management counselling you will be able to choose options such as assertiveness to express your emotions and aid in managing your anger.

·      Anger Management Counselling can enable and empower you to be in control of the situation.

·      The best way to take charge of a situation can be not to get angry when those around you would expect or maybe even want you to show upset.

·      Anger Management Counselling could greatly improve your life.  Also, the lives of others around you will become noticeably better and better.

Sometimes you get annoyed, upset and angry because you spend more time thinking about and dwelling on your problems through mental chatter and don’t believe you can do anything well.

·      You often disregard the good things that you do and don’t let yourself get away with your mistakes and failings.

·      You can learn new ways of thinking about the positive aspects of who you are. You can learn to let yourself feel good when you succeed in managing your anger.

“If you are worried/concerned and don’t understand how you can express and manage your anger safely, contact me on 07743324519 to arrange a session.